A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which otherwise would heal and do well.

I found this title online while searching info on negative attitudes. I spent a couple of hours with someone yesterday that was so negative I couldn't wait to get away. Every person we saw, no matter where or what they were doing, this person has something negative to say.

This morning I came across this quote and then I began to think of another of my pet peeves.

"A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green, which would otherwise heal and do well. "

Of course there could be many different interpretations of this, but here is what I was thinking about:

I get extremely agitated when people start blaming things on their childhood. With that said, I do know there are some things that happen to people that do have a lifelong effect. What annoys me is when you see a mass murdered pleading not guilty due to insanity because his or her father was an alcoholic. A woman that lead a normal life, then drowned her kids but now says it's because she was beat as a child. To me, this is a cop out. Blaming someone else and not taking responsibility for their own actions.

I rarely talk about my childhood but that's because it wasn't very good. My parents separated when I was 8 and went on to get divorced. I could beat my kids every day and say it's because my father beat us and beat my mother and I just can't help it. I could be an alcoholic or a drug addict and blame it on being around so many drugs as a child. I could have an affair and say it's because my father had one. COME ON! There were a lot of bad experiences in my childhood but what did I decide? I decided to take them and make the childhood of my girls better. Jason and I don't have shouting matches in front of them, we show them love every day, we spend quality time with them, we don't drink alcohol in their presence, we make life about them. You make your life what you want to make it, no one else. If you blame it on your parents you are full of crap. If your childhood was so terrible and you love your kids, why would you want to put them through the same things? Is is your responsibility as a parent to make sure your kids are emotionally cared for.

Now that I have vented on that subject, I would like to say that I am going to try to be around more positive people. Being around negative people is so depressing.